Want Wedding Guests To RSVP Faster? This Is How To Frame Your Request
Want Wedding Guests To RSVP Faster? This Is How To Frame Your Request
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@HuffPostWedding how do I politely invite "maybe" guests to reply faster to make room for other guests?#MannersMondays
- Christine Alhambra (@Teenbobeen) November 5, 2013
Anna Post -- great-great-granddaughter of etiquette guru Emily Post and author of Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette -- is here to help us answer this week's question. Find out what she had to say below:
You can submit your wedding etiquette questions via Facebook or tweet them to us @HuffPostWedding with the hashtag #MannersMondays.The best you can do is to check in with them. With a focus on your excitement at seeing them (rather than number-crunching), ask if they think they'll be able to make it. You might get answers more quickly this way. But there's no way to actually ask someone to RSVP before the RSVP-by date. As regrets roll in, be ready to mail out the next invitations to your B-list guests.
Timing is important here: If you are planning to invite B-list guests as regrets are received, it's important not to let the "B" group know they weren't on the A-list to begin with. Guests should have at least four weeks to consider the invitation before the RSVP-by date, which, in turn, is usually one to two weeks before the wedding (ask your caterers when they need a final count). So to give both groups plenty of time, plan to mail invitations at least ten weeks before the wedding and stop sending B-list invitations four weeks before the RSVP-by date to prevent any guest from feeling like a last-minute stand-in.