Song still stuck in your head? Well, if you're getting married and you're grasping to have control over everything, then I want it to be stuck in your head. There are certain aspects of your wedding that you can organize and put together, but during the planning process you will have two choices: let it go, or let yourself go crazy.

Here are the top 5 things that couples should let go of while planning their wedding or while at their wedding:

1. Every single flower needs to be exactly what you want, even if you don't care or know anything about flowers. Look, flowers are important to any wedding, no matter how many or how few you use. The bottom line is that your guests will be looking at them and judging them. Oh, you don't care? Great, this number isn't for you. For the rest of you though, this might be a challenge. Hundreds of Pinterest boards later, friends that were able to have 20 centerpieces, 40 personal flowers and extensive ceremony flowers for "5 dollars", and your absolute need to have peonies in September, I say to you: stop the madness. Flowers get expensive and they get expensive quickly. Frequently my clients complain about the price and want to know why if they're "just flowers" that they cost so much. First of all, don't ever ask your florist that. It's insulting and rude. Just know this: flowers cost what they cost and yes, they are marked up, but if you spend your time bouncing from one florist to the other with an unrealistic budget, you will wind up unhappy. If you do find a florist willing to work with a budget that has been described as "tight" or "difficult" - understand that the vision you have in your head might not be what you see on your wedding day. Decide if this is a priority to you and then move on.

2. Dress drama, and the "I hate it, I love it, I hate it again" issue. Over the past few years I have had numerous brides suffer from buyer's remorse. They buy the gown, they aren't satisfied, and then they need a new one. Typically this happens because the bride is tired of shopping or feels that they will never have that "this is the one" feeling. Whether it's a pushy salesperson, or a pushy entourage, don't buy a gown unless you are in love with it. If you do buy a gown and then you don't want it, you need to decide if you're going to afford to get another one. If you can't, then you are going to wear the one that you bought. There is no way around this, so move on. Dress it up with shoes, accessories, a killer veil, or whatever you want. If you can't budget another gown or you can't stomach spending even more money just to have Gown A pushed to the side, then you have to settle on that decision and keep planning!

3. You didn't include your fiancé's sister's cousin's niece as a flower girl and you are basically the worst person on the planet right now. When it comes to weddings, many people will want to be involved. You decide whom is involved and why these people would want to be involved. Feeling pressure that you need to include someone in your wedding party? Turn the noise off. Unless you are purposely excluding someone to be spiteful, you are not the Spawn of Satan for not including everyone in some way shape or form. They will all get over it and no, you actually do not owe them an explanation. If you hear gossip, or if someone has the audacity to approach you about this (because planning a wedding isn't stressful enough) then you can handle it by speaking directly to the person and asking that they kindly stop creating drama. Yes, you can say that and no, it doesn't make you a bride or groomzilla.

4. It's the night of your wedding and despite the fact that you have the best music EVER, no one is on the dance floor. Weird, since you gave the DJ a strict playlist to abide by and it has only *the best songs ever* on it. What's that? The DJ keeps asking you if he can play "Shout" because it's been requested 87 times? Hell no, it's on the do not play list. OK, stop. While it's great that it's your wedding day and you want your favorite music to be played, if your guests aren't dancing, then your wedding is a snooze. You have to allow your DJ or your band to feel out the crowd and change the music if no one is dancing. Be a little flexible and allow the professionals to keep the party going when your playlist just... isn't. You do not want to just "see how it goes" and then wind up in the fourth quarter of your wedding at the two minute warning with an empty dance floor. Get those people out of the chairs and on their feet. Tell the DJ or your band to take over and do whatever they need to do to make it happen. Then, if no one is dancing, well, your guest list is just bad. And you need to let that go too.

5. The food is terrible. It's basically "wedding food". And no one likes your cake. First of all, was food like, "your thing"? If it wasn't, then don't even worry about this. Many halls and venues offer the sun the moon and the stars, but they do not offer a gourmet menu. The venues that do offer the amazing food are few and far between - and unless you were willing to pay their "per plate" price, you weren't getting in there. Your only other option was to hire your own caterer, and first you have to get into a venue that allows that. Not many people are expecting 5-star dining experience when they go to a wedding (open bar? yes, amazing food? not necessarily) so you don't have much to worry about. Plus, if you weren't all about the food and didn't make this a priority, then shrug it off. Typically, Cocktail Hour is amazing and people are too stuffed to eat during the sit down dinner anyway. Frankly, I've had one wedding cake in my entire life and career as a planner that was worth eating, and no, it wasn't mine. The rest? Yeah.... pass. Now, if food was a priority and you're hearing that it's dreadful, then I understand you getting upset. But, be honest with yourself... did you have an amazing tasting? Is the place or caterer known for their food? Well, then feel free to whisper to your planner (because you're so smart that you hired one) to mention something during the wedding. And then let it go.

Letting go is hard (I get it), especially if you're like me and know that your way is totally the best way ever. But you decide what's right, you decide what's good. And when everything is driving you crazy, go outside and build a snowman.